We provide a couple of examples, but we are sure you do not convincing of this point.
Sometimes in our lives
We all have pain
We all have sorrowBut if we are wise
We know that there’s always tomorrowLean on me
When you’re not strong
And I’ll be your friend
I’ll help you carry on…For it won’t be long
Till I’m gonna need somebody to lean onPlease swallow your pride
If I have things you need to borrowFor no one can fill
Those of your needs that you won’t let showYou just call on me brother when you need a hand
We all need somebody to lean onI just might have a problem that you’ll understand
We all need somebody to lean onLean on me
When you’re not strong
And I’ll be your friend
I’ll help you carry on…For it won’t be long
Till I’m gonna need somebody to lean onYou just call on me…
Terrance Stanley Fox . Retrieved January 29, 2018.)ds (July 28, 1958 – June 28, 1981) was a Canadian athlete, humanitarian, and cancer research activist. In 1980, with one leg having been amputated due to cancer, he embarked on an east to west cross-Canada run to raise money and awareness for cancer research. Although the spread of his cancer eventually forced him to end his quest after 143 days and 5,373 kilometres (3,339 mi), and ultimately cost him his life, his efforts resulted in a lasting, worldwide legacy. The annual Terry Fox Run, first held in 1981, has grown to involve millions of participants in over 60 countries and is now the world’s largest one-day fundraiser for cancer research; over C$750 million has been raised in his name as of January 2018. (“Terry’s Story”. The Terry Fox Foundation
Adapted from Fraley, R. C., Waller, N. G., & Brennan, K. G. (2000).Your attachment style can be plotted as existing somewhere on a two-dimensional scale (see figure above): your degree of avoidance on the Y-axis, and your degree of anxiety on the X-axis. So why doesn’t everyone seek out partners that are perceived as attentive, warm and sensitive – features that are seen to be most attractive to those seeking out long-term relationships (Zeifman & Hazan, 1997)?
“REPEAT A LIE OFTEN ENOUGH AND IT BECOMES THE TRUTH”
-Law of Propaganda (Illusion of Truth Effect) often attributed to the Nazi Joseph GoebbelsLike that, we may have many negative Core Belief regarding Social Connectedness that will hold us back from connecting with others in a way that is good for us.
“WE CANNOT SOLVE OUR PROBLEMS WITH THE SAME THINKING WE USED WHEN WE CREATED THEM”
– Albert EinsteinOften the help of a psychotherapist and an Exposure Hierarchy can help with the process.
“If you would like to be selfish, you should do it in a very intelligent way. The stupid way to be selfish is the way we always have worked, seeking happiness for ourselves alone and in the process becoming more and more miserable. The intelligent way to be selfish is to work for the welfare of others.”
-The Dalai Lama
Assertive self-expression is direct, firm, positive – and, when necessary, persistent – action intended to promote equality in person-to-person relationships. Assertiveness enables us to act in our own best interests, to stand up for ourselves without undue anxiety, to exercise personal rights without denying the rights of others and to express our feelings and needs (affection, love, friendship, disappointment, annoyance, anger, regret, sorrow) honestly and comfortably (Alberti & Emmons, 2008).
Keep in mind that We tend to tap out around 3 hours/day of social activity
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